Some inuit mermaids chilling talking about girl stuff, like strangling a man in the water as he drowns.
I don’t know if spotted seals and ribbon seals ever hang out but today they do.
"I’ve been stuck in this gods-forsaken cave for close to two weeks now… and I think I may be losing my mind.
Just off the edge of the rock bed I’ve been lying on to keep dry, a mermaid (for lack of a better term) is staring at me.
She seemingly appeared out of nowhere when I awoke today… alongside a curious patch of rock (have I been drifting on a loose rock this whole time?).
She seems friendly enough… casting me loving glances, beckoning me close for a kiss on those glistening lips.
Gods, how I miss a woman’s touch.
Well, if I’m going to be here for a while, I might as well enjoy it.
Wait ‘til the boys back home hear that I kissed a mermaid.”
—Unknown Captain’s last journal entry
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If men’s kindnesses toward women were really only kindnesses, a man would be pleased if another man or woman offered these kindnesses to him. He would be pleased if another man or woman lit his cigarette or pulled out his chair for him. He would be pleased to derive his income, prestige, power and even his identity from his partner. He would take pride in another man’s or woman’s offer to walk him to his car at night. But in fact, “one of the very nasty things that can happen to a man is his being treated or seen as a woman, or womanlike.
I sat at my desk listening as a coworker explained to someone else in the department that he had to leave, really, he had to, because the company we all work for is discriminatory against him, because he was an older, white, male. That he had applied for promotions and department shifts, and been denied. Because the company was so determined to keep him down.
Because he was an older, white male.
And I sat there and thought, no.
It’s because you call women in the department ‘little lady.’ Unless you think they’re attractive, and then it’s ‘honey.’ And yes. We’ve all noticed who gets what label, and the ‘honeys’ wish they were ‘little ladies.’
It’s because you talk loudly and publicly about the ‘problem with Obama’ and ‘all those immigrants,’ despite the fact that a large number of our clients are recent arrivals in the United States.
It’s because you mock people’s accents in the middle of the workspace, despite the fact that they speak English better than you will ever, EVER speak another language.
It’s because when I say, ‘don’t do that,’ you’ve said to me, ‘it’s just a joke.’
It’s because you honestly do think that MAKING FUN OF HOW PEOPLE SPEAK is a joke worth telling or laughing at.
It’s because you get too close and ignore body language that makes it clear that you are too close.
It’s because when you say, “I served this country through military service!” the other three veterans in the department visually flinch, as if they do not want you speaking for them, or even associated with them.
It’s because ‘douchebag’ isn’t yet a protected class under discrimination proceedings, so yes. They won’t promote you, and they won’t transfer you, and they did everything possible to retrain you and write you up, and your response was to quit when you were under the threat of being fired.
And to tell yourself that it’s because you’re an older. White. Male.
Retire early, and spare another workplace your sterling presence.
Filed under I am cranky because we would exchange looks the other women and I The women from India And Sudan And Ghana And Columbia And Puerto Rico The women who surround me and do a wonderful job in a language that was not the first to fill their mouths Not the first words which they consumed Which nourished them And now they speak in the dry language of banking and finance but every so often I hear them talk On the phone or to a collegue or someone who is lost and frustrated And they speak in another tongue and with another voice and it is amazing and every day They had to share space with him and how their bones withstand it I cannot say Because I hated him and I had the privilege to tell him to stop
I hear some of you complaining “women always say they want a nice guy.” I know lots of women — I’m even related to a few — and I can’t say I’ve ever heard any of them say that. I can’t prove it, but this sounds like one of those things stand-up comedians say about women and everyone else just repeats. I’ve also never known a woman who cries when she breaks a nail — although I’ve known a few who swear like a 15-year-old sailor in jail — and I’ve never had a woman ask me if her outfit made her look fat unless she actually wanted and subsequently appreciated my opinion. So either I’ve stumbled upon a secret trove of women who aren’t passive-aggressive sob machines, or you need to stop mistaking Dane Cook routines for peer-reviewed sociological studies.
Lore Sjöberg, Alt Text: Taking Another Look at the Myth of the ‘Nice Guy’ (via thatkindofwoman)
Friendly reminder that http://awomanfromitaly.tumblr.com (ME!) makes COMPUTERS THAT ARE REALLY REALLY GOOD AND SO CHEAP YOU WILL CRY.
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Also if you’re trans or a person of color, I’ll charge even less. ZERO profit margin. :| None. Zip. Cost of parts and shipping only.
And if you don’t want a desktop or can’t afford one, signal boost me because I’m a trans girl in a state where its legal to fire / not hire someone in the first place for being trans? I do porn too but the industry makes me REALLY uncomfortable, so I prefer to do this. :(
also cute girls should message me
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Holla at your girl
And get them computers
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Male privilege is feeling so entitled to getting whatever you want that you argue with women over the right to call yourself a feminist, because you don’t like the sound of “feminist ally”, thus proving that your biggest priority in the feminist movement is yourself.
ESPN killed a trans woman. And the author was told “eh, just don’t do it again?” by everyone above him. He still has the job he used to kill a trans person because killing a trans woman isn’t bad press.
I want you to understand this story. It’s here if you can stomach the problematic, transphobic language and the incredibly problematic responses that they’ve made (oh, we should have checked first, but ‘he’ shouldn’t have hidden that ‘he’ was trans so whoops is among the most disturbing writings on this whole story.)
Dr. V is a woman who was in deep stealth. She was very much in the closet to everyone that she met and this was a good thing. She’d spent a lot of time and energy making sure people respected her and treated her decently in a new life because, let’s face it, when you transition people treat you like shit fairly often and she didn’t want that anymore.
She invented this putter. It’s an interesting piece of kit, and the design is still selling if you care about golf. Essentially it’s using physics phenomenon to balance out some of the forces, I haven’t really looked into the technology but she had a lot of professionals saying it made an impact in their putting, to the point that some refused to share details because they were still on tours and they viewed them as “invaluable.”
She asks, when he starts the article, that it be about “the science, not the scientist.” She asks that he focuses on the invention and not her. He agrees, they write about this for a while, he writes an article, it’s interesting, they meet, discuss the physics, and he goes to keep writing.
Then he stumbles across the fact that she might be trans.
And he starts doing all this research. She doesn’t have degrees in her name from the schools she said she did, she didn’t have the job experience under her name … so he researched and found out she was transgender, she experienced serious discrimination to the point she had to sue a former employer, that her closeted life had been somewhat different then what she had disclosed (you mean someone who was trans hid the thing they can be murdered for well? what?) and that she has hidden this as hard as she can.
So he continues to dig. Including calling her investors and friends and telling them she was transgender and giving them information about who she was before she transitioned.
He told people she didn’t have the experience or degrees she was says she had. That not only was she trans but she was a fraud (despite getting confirmation from someone externally that she was, in fact, the person with the experience
She offered to show him the proof that she had the degrees, if he would sign something that he wouldn’t publish it. He said he “couldn’t take that deal.” She’d probably be alive if he had.
She killed herself before it was published.
And you know what’s happened because of this?
Nothing. No-one has been fired. The editor even said that they didn’t want to “make the author feel bad.” But I couldn’t care less because this transphobic murderer isn’t my friend or co-worker. He’s just someone who could give two fucks about whose life he destroys. I spent this morning crying after reading this article, because it was such a clear reminder that we’re the only ones who will stand up for ourselves.
His articles are here,
His twitter is here.
The editor that said those horrific things and approved the entire article to be published is here.
I’m tired of this. I’m tired of finding out we can be beaten to death in front of police officers and have nothing happen. I’m tired of finding out that reason we were called f***gots still rings true - we are valued as less then the price of a match. They think of us as fire starters.
Fine. Let’s start a few fires.
Let’s show them that we’re not taking this shit sitting down. They aren’t allowed to do this to us with impunity anymore. We’re not going to let these people kill us without a fight. Fuck, every single one of us has been fighting since we came out of the closet. No more standing down.
And I’m calling in every single person that has every claimed to be an ally to trans people. This is disgusting, this shit needs to stop, and you could help. We need as many voices as possible.
Anyone identifying as a Radical Feminist - they’re making women kill themselves. Either admit you’re transphobic and stay away from the LGBT movement, or back up what you have said and stand with us.
Anyone who identifies as catholic, christian, muslim, jewish, or any religion that’s had a seriously problematic time dealing with trans people - this isn’t theological, it’s basic morals, we’re being killed out here. Help.
Anyone identifying as an LGBT supporter or ally - I don’t care if you’ve never done anything for transgender people before. Get involved. There are no side line players, either you’re with us or your silence supports those that would have us killed in the streets.
Anyone who has called themselves out as a member of the Rainbow Lantern Corps - you’re needed now. This might not be the reason the response structure was made but we need pressure and let’s face it, the quicker we make people see transgender people deserve basic respect the sooner corrective therapy ends.
Make ESPN send a message, clearly, to anyone who works for them either directly or indirectly - outing a transgender woman is wrong. The resulting suicide should be taken seriously and should be held under actual journalistic scrutiny.
Calab Hannan should be fired. Anything short of permanently losing his position is an insult to the transgender community, and saying that kind of unethical dribble passes for journalism lowers the standard of every publication he touches.
Anything you can send in, letters, tweets, anything, will help. Spreading this around so more people see it will help. We need to respond to this or this shit will keep happening.
Let’s light a few fires.
I originally wrote this article for the University of Sydney’s queer issue of Honi Soit, but a bunch of editing debacles meant that it wasn’t published (despite my near-miraculous feat of cutting it down to almost 1100 words from the original 2600). As such, I am putting it here, because I remember someone asking when I first talked about it on Tumblr.
Queer Identities in Sherlock: A Study in Embarrassing Failures
by tumblr user cuddlytogas
“In response to cultural and historical pressures, many social workers ‘psychologize’ human misery and ignore or avoid the political and economic dimensions of their clients’ pain. They provide opportunities for introspection and personal change but fail to offer transformative insights rooted in understanding of broader social forces. […]Failure to acknowledge the social and political roots of individual misery can leave professionals as well as their clients in what Jacoby (1975) termed ‘the isolation that damns the individual to scrape along in a private world.’”
— Amanda Smith Barusch, “Social Justice and Social Workers”